If you look, you may discover you’re not free. I looked and discovered this was me. I was existing bound by the ‘can’t dos’ that culture & faith taught me. You’re a man so you can’t do A or B. You’re Christian so you can’t do C or D. Can’t, can’t, can’t is how I lived. I wasn’t free. Boundaries are important, but they should be used to define what I can do, safely. I struggle with this newfound freedom, but I’ve also learned as Celie said in The Color Purple, ‘Folks don’t like nobody being too proud or too free.